Ahhh, beliefs and expectations. They make us who we are. They are so important. But did you know that you have the power to explore and shift these expectations and beliefs when they no longer serve you?
I know from experience that when we become passive to our beliefs and believe our beliefs, it doesn't leave us open to change.
Another spanner in your works: believing something doesn't make it true. You might want to let that soak in because this can be both terrifying and liberating.
When it comes to our children, beliefs can become problematic. If we place our beliefs onto our children, we start to shape who they are and this can leave them very little room to form their own ideas and explore the world in their own perfect way. Even when you're aware of this, the subtlety can sneak up on you.
But this is about you today. You might notice a belief no longer serving you when resentment starts to build in places you seek joy instead.
You might be nodding along right now. If not, stick with me.
As an example, beliefs became particularly problematic around sleep and daytime behaviour - both of which were mostly normal for her developmental age. I myself was very fixated on things being a certain way and when they weren't, I experienced that as a loss of control.
My beliefs were various forms of:
I don't and can't accept…
And more specifically:
I don't cosleep.
My beliefs were hindering any acceptance or surrendering. They were also clouding my judgement and the ability to accept facts. Facts were for other people; people who didn't know what I knew (or believe what I believed).
Maybe you feel this too. Maybe you have beliefs about your partner, your mother, your workplace, your worth. Maybe it's time to let some of them go.
What can we challenge these beliefs? What can we let go on? How does it feel to hold onto a belief that no longer serves us? How would we feel if we let it go?
That is within your power and for you to explore.
Think about the language you use. Think about your passion. Think about the things that make you you. Think about what you want your experience to be.
I've created a journal prompt worksheet for you to download below. Let the questions guide you towards clarity and self-discovery. Don't be concerned if nothing comes to mind to begin with. When something presents itself, write it down before you have a chance to experience any doubt or judgement of self. Write until your hand hurts. It doesn't have to make sense to initially.
I'd love to hear from you if this was helpful or you found it challenging in any way.
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