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I was catching up with friends after work yesterday. I walked out the door in the morning and thought: "eh, I'll deal with this when I get back. At least they aren't coming here." And at the last minute, location changed. To my place!
I could have said "no". But I decided with intention to let those friends in. My guard was not up. And I think I only apologised once or twice for the mess.
We had pyjamas from the morning on the lounge room floor, breakfast crumbs on the table and on the floor, stuff all over the counters and I had walked in and dumped the lunch boxes and backpacks in the entryway to the kitchen.
I was even on the toilet when my friend arrived. And then feeding my youngest when my other friend arrived. Everyone just let themselves in and helped themselves in my kitchen.
They are probably reading this and thinking nothing of it.
But it meant something to me. It felt like a lovely change. It felt like family.
With the mess, I reasoned:
you've got two kids, it's school holidays, you've worked all day, we're in a new sleep routine, we're this, you're that.
But what about the parents who are at home with a newborn for the first time?
I was thinking about this. Often, it appears as though there is "no excuse". What are you doing all day?! Especially if you've only got one child. There's this misconception that you've got all this free time.
Well! Let me tell you. Before guests arrive to hold the baby, not ask how mum is and leave their biscuit crumbs and coffee mug on the table (that mum made because everyone was soooo helpful to hold the baby 😂)...
So, you see, that makes for a busy day.
Don't feel as though just because you're home all day, you need to perform or have the house in a state.
Just be you, muddling along. It’s enough.
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